差し控える

1. Origins, structure, and basic meaning

• Structure: 差し控える is read as さしひかえる and is a verb meaning to deliberately refrain from or withhold a comment, action, or choice after considering the circumstances.
• Basic usage: Use 発言を差し控える for withholding comment and 派手な服装を差し控える for refraining from elaborate clothing.

2. Common pitfalls and similar expressions

• Difference between 差し控える and 控える
  • The former strongly suggests a considered restraint or postponement in a formal setting, whereas the latter has broader senses including refraining, being imminent, and waiting nearby.